I'm not sure what's with crazy people in my life for the last 2ish years, but I would be really happy to just not deal with any of that ever again. (If only I could figure out how- besides becoming a hermit.)
My most recent incident with crazy happened just the other day w/ yet another person who blindly believes they are in the right and their poor communication skills have no affect on screwing other people over.
In order to get out my frustration, so that I can let it fade away eventually, I am writing this letter here for the anonymous internet to enjoy w/o bothering mutual friends with the issues at hand:
Dear.... you... jerk,
I find your victim act disgusting. When you were babbling to me, I smiled, nodded, and let you believe whatever you wanted so that I could walk out of there and never see you again. The thing is, when I walked in, I had every intention of continuing to offer assistance in the form of items or effort. By the time I walked out, I had a mental image of the world imploding behind me so it could be stripped from my reality. You are rude, irrational, and incredibly bad at business communication. Let's just go through your "points", shall we?
1) I can't just "show up a year later" demanding my stuff back.
-Er... yes I can. I didn't disappear into the night. I wasn't just MIA from doing actual business with you. No.
Did you forget the year of time I kept calling and coming by- asking how I could help get the studio ready, willing to help with other construction elsewhere so you would be more free to work on what you promised me, and how many times I came by when you said you would have something for me to do only to be vacuuming pet hair and picking up dog poo- for free- in my spare time- while I waited for you to come up with a real task.
How about how I tried to take photos of the pets, but there was never a clean, well lit area- even though I told you repeatedly that all I needed was good lighting and a blank wall. Where was the effort you made to this endeavor? How many times did you contact me with something I could do? How many times did you let me know that someone called or came by wanting more information on the pet photography? Zip, Zero, Zilch. Seems like there was a lot more effort on my part than the pipe dreams you spouted to me.
Did you ever consider the fact that the last few times I came by, and finally stopped volunteering my time, were just a reminder that you made a promise that kept being pushed back? If you didn't notice then, let me give you a big "hindsight is 20/20" hint: I came in, asked for you, asked for a rough date with I could start working on the studio, left my contact information, and went on my merry way believing you would contact me in a timely manner to either let me know it was ready OR that I could stop waiting b/c you decided to focus on something else... forever.
2. I make your business look bad b/c people contact you to get in touch with me but I never contact them back.
- Wow... look at that, you thought I was a psychic as well. How can I contact them back if you don't tell me? I can't help it if they ignore my email address (which is provided on my facebook page and business cards) and opt to going to the location where the studio was suppose to be b/c you said it would be. I'm the one who looks bad. If they wanted me to contact them back, I need to know to contact them back. I left my contact information with you repeatedly! If you lost it, you could easily find me on facebook or tell me the next time I came in or called. I made the effort to contact you, ask for updates, communicate my needs to start working there... what did you do in return? Really. I want you to try to recall even one time where you called me with an update or message from a customer.
And the charity I donated to in my name... how is that an issue for you? You still didn't explain what you meant about that. Was it before or after I sent her the photos? If it was before, then she eventually contacted me and everything is okay. If it was after, I'd like to know in case she wasn't happy with the results. In either case, the information I provided to the charity was MY email address and phone number. I can't control how they went about things after that.
3. You feel like I put you in the middle of something that you aren't a part of.
-How are you not a part of losing a computer that was suppose to be stored safely in an area until my studio was ready? Did you even once mention to me that it wouldn't be safe and that I shouldn't have it there? No. You didn't. In fact, you showed me where I would be able to set it up... eventually... when you got around to fixing up that area... in a couple weeks.... in a couple more weeks... in a couple months... in an undetermined amount of time but you "promise" you'll get to it.
I came by repeatedly when I finally gave up on your "promise" to get my stuff. Instead of letting me walk back there and gather it all up, it had to be brought to me. All I could do was ask for other items that I knew were there and hope you would volunteer anything I forgot about. The stuff was there that long b/c I was still expecting you to either fix the studio or let me know I could come in to fix it. I didn't want to be a pest and come by unless you had something for me to do. Eventually, I had to get a "real" job to make ends meet b/c you weren't helping at all and so I couldn't stop by every day to remind you I was around and waiting for my studio. When I did stop by you were either too busy to see me or you had nothing to report.
After asking about the computer tower, I was told ya'll would look for it and call me. So I waited. Then I came by again in case you lost my number, which you did. I was told someone would call me. So I waited. This happened at least 3 times! My mom was bugging me about it b/c it was her computer that she gave me to have in the studio. If there wasn't going to be a studio, she wanted it back. I told her you would call me. We waited. And waited. I patiently waited, but she was fed up and called. You weren't in the middle of anything. Your poor communication and lack of updates were the CAUSE of the situation. When she finally became irate with you, it's b/c YOU didn't let EITHER OF US know what was going on.
I was the one caught in the middle. You were so rude to her that she didn't want to talk to you again and asked me to stop by to pick up the computer that you NEVER CALLED US ABOUT. The only way she knew you had found it MONTHS AGO, was when you briefly mentioned it in the middle of your crazy, selfish rant. I guess it's better that she wasn't patiently waiting like me... like I had been asked to do... otherwise we might have never known that it was there.
4. What the hell was that comment about "communicating more clearly or more truthfully"?
-I really have no idea what you are talking about. If anyone needs to do that, it's you. Empty promises. Constantly moving the "I'll get around to it when" dates. No calls or emails about what's going on. No messages for me from customers. I never lied about anything. Why would I? I gain nothing from lying about... I don't even know what the hell I would have been lying about.
You did make a liar out of me, though. When you would tell me a month that I could expect to have a studio, I would tell people when they asked when my studio should be ready. At first, I gave them the answer like I believed it (b/c I did). Later on, I gave the "estimated date" with a side note that you were really busy and the estimate might be wrong. Eventually, I could only say "I don't know". Those first people, well, that ends up being a lie since the studio never happened.
5. If anyone is out money, it's you b/c you paid to have my computer fixed.
-Really? $75 to fix a computer that should have been in a safe area, that was waiting on a studio, that was only there b/c you pointed out exactly where it would go. A computer that was working when I brought it over, but after being covered in sawdust and dog hair that you exposed it to b/c you moved it from the 1st area my studio was suppose to be in to a different area that was basically junk and construction material.
Poor you... out $75... when I volunteered many times doing things your paid staff could have done... while you could have given me work that could benefit both our goals. I'm sure I provided you with more free work than $75. The computer didn't stop working b/c it wasn't used for a year. (That's not how computers stop working! My old windows 3.1 computer still works after sitting in a CLEAN area for years!) It stopped working b/c you put it in a bad environment for electronics and assured me there was nothing to worry about when you moved it to that new area.
I'm just glad I never have to directly communicate with you ever again. If I do, I'll probably just smile, look concerned, nod, and get away from you as fast as I can. You aren't worth my time or thoughts, so after I write this, it's gone from me and you can continue to fester in your frustration and self-righteous delusion. I just feel sorry for your husband b/c you are obviously the type of person who has to be calmed down from a irrational rage on a regular basis. Good luck to him. Good riddance to you.